That’s the name of a post on circumcision, written from a man’s perspective as to why circumcised men want their sons to be circumcised. If the father of your baby is circumcised, he will probably want your son to be circumcised. Why?
Men who have been circumcised have an extremely difficult dilemma. For them to acknowledge that the practice is unnecessary and harmful means that they must acknowledge a painful personal reality.
You really need to read the whole article (preferably, before you bring the topic up the first time, so that you can bring it up in the way most likely to bring positive results). But this totally makes sense. As I was reading this article, I was nodding my head in agreement at the whole thing, because it reminded me of “the talk” my husband and I had — or rather, “the talks” because we discussed it more than once, just as in this article. Men don’t want to have it thrown in their faces that there’s something “wrong” with their penises; and for a woman to want her sons to remain intact implies (to the men, whether women mean it this way or not) that there is something wrong with being circumcised. Therefore, for cut men to accept that, it requires them to accept that there is something wrong with them. Ouch. Far easier to retreat into the various fallacies and myths surrounding circumcision, rather than accept that they were subjected to a painful and unnecessary procedure when they couldn’t consent. And, after all, since most men don’t remember it, they assuage any qualms about it by saying that their sons won’t remember it either, and will get all the “benefits” of circumcision, like “looking like his dad!”
Women and men are different in so many ways. Is it sexist to say that? Perhaps; but it’s also accurate. We women need to learn how to communicate in our female way, in such a way that we can reach our men. Want to learn how to do it? Read the rest of the article. 🙂