I picked up my son yesterday — he fell asleep in my lap after lunch, and I carried him to his room. I toyed with the idea of just trying to ooze out of the chair and leave him asleep in it, but figured he’d get better sleep in his own bed. I considered the possible “carrying a heavy weight”-spotting connection, and said, “Well, I haven’t had any spotting for a while; maybe it wasn’t that anyway; am I supposed to go the whole 9 months making sure I lift nothing heavier than 10 pounds?? So, I carried him. And to add insult to injury (possible injury, although I hope not!) — he didn’t stay asleep.
This morning, I woke up to spotting. It’s not as heavy as the other times I had red bleeding, but it has been all day, which is longer than the other times; and it hasn’t seemed to have abated much if at all. Plus, I can feel slight cramping much of the time — it’s slight so that if I’m distracted I don’t feel it, but if I think about it, I can. So, I’m back on my self-imposed restrictions — I also had not been worrying about when or how many times or how quickly I went up and down stairs. No other possibilities spring to mind about what may have caused it. And I know it’s possible that nothing I did or didn’t do has caused it… but the onset was too similar to the other times — definite onset within several hours of carrying something heavy (my child, a frozen 20-lb turkey, etc.) — for me to just dismiss it as coincidence.
Some study suggested that more women who miscarried had done vigorous exercise (running, bouncing type exercises — quick, rapid motions) in their first-trimester miscarriage. However, I also read something many months or perhaps even years ago about a similar-sounding study (perhaps even the same one), that noted that the study in question was retrospective, and asked women perhaps many months or even a year after their miscarriage about their exercise habits. Time may have clouded the recall of these women; and if they knew that the researchers were focusing on the possibility that exercise may have caused miscarriage, they may have misremembered how little and how mildly they exercised; and the other women who did not have miscarriages may likewise have misremembered how how much and how vigorously they exercised. What would be far better would be to gather a group of women who were trying to conceive, and have the women keep an exercise diary both in the pre-conception period as well as at least through the first trimester (or at least until miscarriage), to see prospectively how exercise might affect pregnancy.
However, until I see that study (and perhaps even then, because I might be an exception to the rule!), I’m going to take it easy; try not to go up and down stairs too much; when I do go up and down stairs, I will go more slowly, and not race up and down; I will not carry my child or anything heavy for several weeks more at least (so no helping my husband bring the Christmas tree in!) and I will try to relax and not worry.
Actually, I’m not worrying, because I know that if I am miscarrying, there’s nothing else I can do to prevent it. Although I suspect that if this current bleeding ends in a full-blown miscarriage, I will feel some measure of guilt for carrying Seth to bed. Trying not to think about that, though…
[Update — this spotting did end up being a full-blown miscarriage, but I don’t really feel guilty. Perhaps I “should” feel guilty, but I honestly feel that while my carrying him may have kick-started the spotting, that the miscarriage was ultimately unavoidable.]