Recently, one of my facebook friends (about 20 years old) who is in nursing school did one of those “Write 25 Random Things About Yourself” notes, and one thing she said was that she would like a large family, but that after her L&D rotation, she is thinking about adoption. Since she and her four siblings were all adopted, she knows the love an adoptive family can have for their children regardless of genetics, so I don’t think it’s sad that she is thinking adoption, per se. Rather, that her L&D experience made her want not to give birth.
This shouldn’t be. And it’s sad to me. I’m all for adoption, don’t get me wrong; but it’s sad that her exposure to birth has made her want not to give birth.
She said “the whole pregnancy and delivery thing is yucky.” Most people who are involved in birth, from what I’ve seen, think that pregnancy and birth are beautiful. One L&D nurse said that when she’s assisting at a C-section, she always makes sure she’s on the belly side of the screen so she can see the baby come out — she always loves that part, whether the baby is born vaginally or by C-section. I wonder why this young woman already has a negative opinion about it. Maybe just “diff’rent strokes for diff’rent folks” — not everybody likes mustard and not everybody likes birth. But to think it’s “yucky”? That’s just sad to me.