In my most recent post, I linked to a story of a woman whose baby was diagnosed by ultrasound with severe fetal anomalies, and given zero chance to live — if he made it to term, he likely would die in birth; if he made it through birth, he likely would die soon afterwards. Every doctor she saw counseled her to have an abortion. I thought at the time of the post, that the website (Be Not Afraid) was her particular site or blog. I have since read through more of it, and have found that this website actually “is an online outreach to parents who have received a poor or difficult prenatal diagnosis.”
There are numerous stories on this site, covering a wide range of experiences. The one thing they have in common, though, is that all of the women and couples chose not to have an abortion, although they were counseled to have one. Some of the stories include inaccurate diagnoses, babies living just a few minutes (which was longer than the doctor’s predictions), and most of all just loving the babies that they grew in their wombs.
Here’s a similar story from a different website. I’m including it, because of the woman’s pregnancy and birth story (hint — she fired her doctors and went to a midwife).
I’ve read a story of a woman who had an abortion (technically, a preterm induction — labor is induced before the baby is old enough to live, and no attempt at resuscitation nor life-saving measures are employed) after finding out her son had severe disabilities and would not survive to term; or if he did, would not survive birth; or if he did, would not survive long after birth. She said that she had no choice but to terminate the pregnancy — she couldn’t bear the thought of continuing to grow her baby in her womb, all the while knowing he would die. As is shown by many of the stories on the Be Not Afraid website, most doctors will fully support the choice of abortion, but will not fully support the choice of continuing the pregnancy. (Is it really a choice, then? — when only one option is truly available?)
If you are being faced with this choice, my heart goes out to you. I urge you to consider all of your options, including the fact that prenatal diagnoses may be wrong. If you are being faced with this choice, and you want to continue your pregnancy while everyone else around you is urging you to have an abortion and “just get on with your life” or “have another baby — one without defects,” then I beg you to seek support. You are not alone. You are not the only person to have faced this. You will not be the only woman to have chosen to keep nourishing and growing her baby in her womb, even when all the “experts” say it will be better for you to stop. Even if your baby has only a slim chance at life, abortion reduces that chance to zero. Even if your baby dies soon after he is born, he will live longer than he would have if you choose to abort.
Here is support, if you want to reach out for it.
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